The 3 Stands™
Stand 1: ABSOLUTELY NO!
In the NHA, we reframe the notion of child misbehavior as a misuse of intensity. Nurtured Heart Approach® thinking embraces the intensity generously possessed by most children with challenging behaviors as powerful fuel that—if developed correctly—can propel these same children into amazing achievements. When a child learns to feel great about their intensity, incidents of challenging behavior dissolve.
The Nurtured Heart Approach embraces The 3 Stands™: guidelines for relationship that, when committed to, become a powerful means for transforming children.
I refuse to give my time, energy and relationship to negative behavior. I will not accidentally foster failure nor will I reward problems by responding to them in animated ways. I will save my time and energy for searching for success.